Anger Management For Adults

Anger can be expressed outwardly or inwardly.

You are an ‘’IMPLODER’ if you are someone who bottles up your emotions and internalises your feelings. Your anger and other emotions and needs are not being expressed and the pressure starts to build. You may be concealing your anger and taking a lot on the ‘chin’, because there does not seem a lot else you can do in the situation. This can produce physical symptoms like headaches, migraine, skin disorders, tiredness and depression. You will most certainly benefit from anger management.

Remember this: All Imploders will eventually explode - it’s only a matter of time!

On the other hand, if you are an “EXPLODER” you are someone who shows your anger outwardly and most likely would say that you have a short fuse. If you find that you are getting out of control, this will eventually lead to problems in your life. Do you have a red face? Are others intimidated by you? If you recognise that you have a short fuse or that you lose your temper a lot and are stressed, you definately need anger management. Your health will also be effected and can be fatal in that anger can lead to high blood pressure and coronary heart disease, stress, digestive disorders, insomnia, skin problems and effect libido. You might feel tired all the time.

Do you lash out, throw things, smash objects, swear and shout, intimidate or hit others?

If so, do you realise this is abuse?

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How many times do you regret what you have done or wish you wouldn’t have said what you did?

Remember, damage caused is not easily mended. There are consequences to your actions. There are prices to pay for your inappropriate behaviour. For example, you might lose your job, your home, your partner, your children, your money, your security and even, should the law intervene, your freedom!

We offer one on one confidential anger management counselling which will empower you to take control of your anger. The programme is not psychotherapy or traditional counselling alone, but rather more practical to give you tools to use immediately. We will tackle the issues immediately once we understand clearly what is going on and support you to understand your anger better, to recognise early warning signs of anger and most importantly, we will provide you with the necessary tools you can use every day to stay in control. In addition, we may assist you to use assertiveness, raise your self-esteem, manage conflict and manage your stress.

Anger Management is NOT a Quick Fix! It takes time and practice once you have learned all the tools.

It usually takes at least 4 hours to complete the programme in weekly one hour or two hour sessions, although if your situation is more complex it can take longer. These one on one sessions are on an appointment basis in Parklands or Rivonia and it is best if you phone us to arrange an appointment on 021 556 3679. For Gauteng enquiries, please send us an email and we will forward it onto our Sandton office who will then contact you. The cost for each session will be discussed when you call.

It is our intention to expand into other cities in the future and have other branches closer to you. We are offering a franchise opportunity to those in other cities with suitable backgrounds who wish to get involved in anger management and helping others in other provinces. Please email us in interested.

Anger Management for Couples

Anger and conflict in relationships can be very destructive, as can poor communication. It can lead to a deterioration in the relationship ending in separation or even worse, can lead to domestic violence. It can also badly impact on children.

Most arguments tend to begin with something small and rapidly get out of control. Usually you say or do things which you later regret because you are close to the other person and love them. These things cannot be taken back, yet you know which buttons to push .... and you keep pushing them. Why? You know this is tearing the relationship apart and you are both in a downward spiral.

YOU CAN SALVAGE THE SITUATION AND REGAIN CONTROL!

I am not offering miracles. Anger management will help each of you to better understand each other, manage your anger, communicate better and not to push each others buttons. This will allow you to have a better, more loving and intimate relationship together. Maybe it is not too late and you don’t need to break up. The result will also benefit you in other areas too, such as with your family and friends, at work and out and about. These ‘couples counselling ‘ sessions will not cost more than if you are seen individually. Consider it as 2 for the price of 1.

Topics covered on the courses What anger is and what it is not Styles and sources of anger Types of anger Anger Triggers and the Emotional Cycle The Power of Thought Early warning signals The 12 Rules (Tools) of Anger Management Calming down strategies Knowing your Needs Shame How to move away from conflict and reaction Assertiveness Managing Conflict Anger and Stress Taking things personally How to communicate better with others

Anger Management for Parents

Parenting is not easy, however there is a lot of help available in books and on the web that can offer guidance and support. Don’t rely on the unwritten ‘manual’ of doing things in the way you were brought up or of making comparisons. This is a new generation of kids and they need to be managed differently.

My programme for parents is flexible and is designed to support both your anger as parents as well as the anger in your children. There are a lot of diverse issues such as:

• Are you angry?
• Are you aggressive?
• How do you behave when you are angry?
• Is history repeating itself?
• Do you scream and hit your kids?
• Do you lose control?
• Are you stressed?
• Did you have post-natal depression?
• Was one of the children unplanned?
• Are you with a new partner having got divorced?
• What have you modelled for your children to ‘copy’?
• Do you have healthy boundaries with your children?
• How do you discipline them?
• How do you deal with bad or rude behaviour?
• Do you feel like you are living a nightmare?

I could create a much longer list, however, that is not necessary. If you feel you need support on how to manage anger as parents then this course is for you, or perhaps you would like some guidance on parenting. This can prevent a breakdown of relationships between yourselves as adults and between you and your children, which is a small price to pay for a large reward.

Some topics covered are:

• What anger is and is not
• Recognising triggers of anger
• Understanding primary needs
• Calming down and taking control
• Dealing with conflict
• Do’s and dont’s of parent-child interactions
• How to manage my kids behaviour, rudeness, attitudes etc.

Perhaps parents are doing things their parents did to them. They will learn to understand their own emotions and those of their child's. It will give them some idea on how to get back the control and deal assertively with their angry behaviour.

They will discover some of the reasons for acting the way they do and learn how to break negative patterns of managing their child in the way they were managed when they were a child.

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